Monday, July 21, 2008

Cafe Chat- What are your priorities?

The question for this Saturday is a real thought-provoking one. I needed to think on these and pray to God, like I tend to do, about my priorities. I always want to have them in order, but the truth is, I don't always. It takes making God a priority for Him to set straight the rest of my life's priorities. Funny how every time I ask Him about my life and the way it should go and ask Him to order my steps, it works out. How about you?

I'm late this week on submitting my post for this, but when I found out what the subject matter was, I felt I had to post. I apologize for posting so late. Hope you get a chance to read it anyway. I can't wait to see everyone else's thoughts. So what is the question for this week?
What are your priorities?

Name what you think should be your first 5 priorities in life? Then order those priorities the way they actually are at present in your own life. Do they match up? Why or why not? If needed, what is one thing that you can do today that will help your two lists match up?

Don't we all like to think that we have our priorities straight? I mean who wants to admit that their priorities are really out of order? Some of us might admit to one or two things, but what if all of our priorities are out of order? Who determines that order in your life? I'm afraid that most of the time, before we realize it, we are the ones that determine the order. I know that's been the case in my life. I have to be transparent about that. Well, I'll list what comes to mind now, but I pray the Holy Spirit shows me what they REALLY ARE and what they REALLY SHOULD BE if currently, they don't match up. Here's where I think I am now:

  1. My number one, daily goal right now, is to just know and/or realize who God is to me and who I am in Him. That's big! Just knowing I'm not worthy of the free gift of salvation but God, in His goodness and mercy, extending that to me anyway, and not holding my past, present, or future sins against me (once I accepted Him) that just blows my mind! The enemy wants us to feel guilty about so much we've done, and he doesn't want us to live in that salvation. We're sometimes robbed of the freedom we have in Jesus; not free to continue to sin, but free to have our sins washed away, live to glorify Him, and start all over again.
  2. My next goal is to somehow in some way, daily pursue Him with all diligence. I try and take every thought captive. I try to do everything as unto the Lord. Sometimes I'm successful (because of Him and my submission), and sometimes I'm not. I also would say this is where I'm cognizant of having a regular prayer life or continual conversations with God throughout the day, as I think of things and/or as He puts things or people on my mind.
  3. Train my children in the way that they should go. Teach them when they wake up, as they go along the way, and when they lie down. Pray for them, bathing and covering them in prayer, letting them see me do things that God causes and/or calls me to do. I sometimes mess this up too. I sin and I have to ask for forgiveness. I've struggled with wanting to be perfect in front of them, not wanting to say or do anything wrong so that they can model that. They also needed to see that I wasn't perfect and that when I made mistakes, like I ultimately would, I needed the same Jesus they did to renew me, forgive me, and propel me forward.
  4. My husband. Precious thing. I should have him as #3, so this is where I think my priorities get out of order and I need the most help. God help me...really. He is God's chosen one for me and he is a gift. I love him and I study regularly who God would have me be as a wife (studying the Word, taking classes, giving classes, practicing it, etc.) to him, but I lose perspective and sometimes the desire to train up the kids will take precedence. I don't mean for this to happen, and sometimes, I catch myself and re-prioritize and re-schedule, but it does happen. He works and I don't, so I get to spend a lot of time on them. He has to rest and nap when he comes home, eat dinner, etc., so since he needs that time, I just do household things or...focus on whatever needs the children have right then. So, I have them all day, and then, if he has "checked out" on me, I deal with them again later. I do make myself available to him and try to minister to his needs, but I think this priority got out of order when he couldn't seem to prioritize his time with family. I sort of had to find something else to do since he was "checked out." He didn't want to be, and really wanted to find ways to pay attention to the family, but we haven't found one way or one schedule for him that's been totally successful yet...but, he's trying and he cares. God will show us, we believe.
  5. I try and listen to God's heart on where I should give, volunteer, participate, and things I should otherwise be a part of. I don't try and do everything, realizing that I can't and that there is not enough time. I believe God wouldn't have me half do a lot of things instead of doing one or just a couple of things well and right. I feel it's my duty and privilege to seek to do community and "life" with friends, church members, and neighbors if I can. I love taking the Word of God where he would have my feet or voice to carry it. I pray for opportunities-that I don't miss one, knowing that I could always give the excuse that I don't have time or no one came across my path. That will never be the case realistically. I sincerely want people to know Jesus. I love Him and I want others to also. This is where I focus on others outside of my family.

If there is anything I'm doing right or in an order He wants me to do it, it has been by His Spirit in me, my surrender, His convictions, my asking for them, and me asking Him to do what only He can do in me. I need His perfecting and transforming grace daily, but as I practice and think on the right things, as I surrender to Him, He gets to use me however and whenever He sees fit. I'm afraid that I disappoint Him more often than not, but I want to be in the practice and habit (more as I grow older) of obeying Him and looking more like Him everyday. I need to end by quoting the words of a hymn: "I need Thee, O I need Thee. Every hour I need Thee. O bless me now my Savior. I come to Thee."

Blessings to you all as we strive to prioritize.


Toknowhim said...

Great Honest Answers... I loved that so many of the ladies prayed about this question this week before answering it... Blessings to you as you continue to seek Him :)

Peculiar said...

It's amazing what God will bring to mind when you ask Him to expose you or your priorities. Sometimes, the answer hurts, but we need to know if we want to improve and be pleasing unto Him. Some of these things weren't easy to admit to, but transparency is important and therapeutic for all.
Thanks for stopping by.

Renee said...

Thankyou for sharing your heart. Your words have been a blessing to me today!

Peculiar said...

Renee, thanks for stopping by. Praise God He was a blessing to you through me.