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Did you know that British tea merchants, seeking a trade route that would bypass the battlefields of the Crimean War, introduced Morocco to tea drinking in the mid-nineteenth century? Moroccans traditionally drink green tea (usually Gunpowder) flavored with mint (Mmmm!!!). Boiling water is poured over the leaves and immediately discarded (this will greatly reduce or even eliminate the amount of caffeine). Mint leaves and sugar hammered from a large loaf are added to the tea leaves, and water is again poured in. The tea steeps and is tasted; more sugar and mint may be added. Men--at home, either the father or the eldest son--always pour and serve the tea (alright! I'll let my husband do that!), pouring it in a stream from high above the small glasses--a spectacle in itself and a way for guests to savor the color and aroma before they drink.
When you pray for your children, do you pray for the friends that they hang around too? Should that be a regular part of your prayer life when it comes to your kids? After all, they're not around you 24/7, and it matters about the influence they're under.
My husband and I were talking this weekend about the fact that as humans, we want to be in control of everything, our lives, the kids' lives, our situations, etc. We know that we shoud relinquish full and total control to God, but somehow, in our human-ness, we take back control and make decisions apart from God before we know it. Well, we CAN'T always control who our children are around, or who they will encounter when we just can't have that watchful eye over them every moment. Even when we are around, there can be subtle things that happen, that we may miss, but the children surely won't miss, that happened before we were aware of what was really going on. What to do? Well for starters, realize that we can't be in control of every situation that our kids are involved in, and we can't always control whom they will encounter.
But, we can pray for the people that they will surely come in contact with, whether we're there or not. My husband and I discussed how people in the church have the misguided notion that if they only expose their children to church kids, they don't have to worry about the problem of having their children exposed to "the wrong kind." Wrong notion! The enemy and his influence is everywhere, yes, including the church. The building of the church holds no special "aura" around the doors that once inside, you're safe, and the enemy can't penetrate the walls or the doors. Children who have worldly influence do come to church. And what's wrong with that? After all, that's where they need to be. If they have any chance of right influence and coming to know Christ (if they don't know Him already), this is the place to be. Christ didn't go around seeking the saved and the near-perfect, He sought the lost and sick. He hung out with ALL kinds.
It is best, we've learned, that we focus less on whom our children may encounter (though we do talk to them about their choices and we do try and steer them in the right directions or away from obvious negative influence) and focus more on modeling Christ in our home, teaching the love of Christ and His Word, teaching right from wrong then talking about and giving our children choices in life (knowing that there is a benefit or consequence to all of their choices--even what friends they choose to hang around), etc. We feel if they focus more on these things and practice them, they will be prone to make better choices when they're out. They get the opportunity, every time they leave us, to put into practice what they've learned. They also get the opportunity, if they choose wisely, to model Christ before the unsaved.
Sometimes I say, "Too bad I can't protect them fully from everything." But that shouldn't be "too bad." I should be glad to commit the Savior and Protector, the very Creator of the children who loves their very souls, to have complete charge of and parent my children through me. I always say, He can do a much better job controlling the things that He creates, than I can. I'm just the vessel He chose to use to parent them in human form and love them. I must stay prayerful, consulting the Creator, and ask for His protection on them. I must listen to His Words on how to raise them and obey those words. This is really all that we can do. We must fully trust God with them. That is hard isn't it? It's right, and it must be done, but in all honesty, it's hard sometimes. Yes, we must relinquish what we realistically have no control of to the one who is in ultimate control.
Pray then, for your children's encounters. Pray protection around your children (their hearts, minds, bodies) when they're out and about. Pray for their decisions when you're in their presence in public places or not in their presence. Pray for their classmates and/or church mates. Some are going to be saved. Some won't. You'd have to lock your kid up in the basement to protect them from potentially bad influences, but that bad influence NEEDS your prayers. What are the goals after all, in life, or what should they be? To glorify God and bring someone else to the saving knowledge of Christ.
NOTE: If you have been reading my celebration post (for my 200th), check back today and pick up where you left off. I'm going to try and finish this post today, but if I cannot, there will be new things to read, I'll get as far as I can get, and we'll be that much closer to 100!! I think doing the post ended up being a larger endeavor than I thought, but I don't regret taking it on. I hope you learned something you may not have known about God or the Bible.
Thank you for reading all the way to the end, if you did. I hope you found this list quite interesting, useful, engaging. I hope it prompted you to look up some of these things for yourself. If you found any error in my information, please comment and let me know. I like to be corrected. I tried to personally look up all of the facts that I got from other sources, otherwise, the other facts were ones that I had studied and found to be true myself. Thanks for celebrating with me.
What are you thankful for today? How does the TRUTH impact you? Join Iris and many thankful-hearted others and see what God has placed on their hearts about being thankful. Go to http://www.eph2810.com/ and read and/or post your own. Thanks Iris, for today's theme.
Don't you just love it, if you have children who are out of the home, and they come back and visit? I love seeing my 18 year old son. When I see him, I'm surprised that he's 18, although he's been 18 since March. I can't get it through my head. It's not that his being 18 makes me seem or feel old, it's that my firstborn is 18!!!
Well, he came over last night, to spend the night with us, and the kids still home are always happy to see him. He picks up where he left off in playing with them, kissing on his "Sissy," going in and out of my refrigerator (as if he's never left), and just generally feeling like he's home. I want all of my children to feel a sense of home, even after they leave. What about you? How does this play out for you if you have grown (or nearly grown--I don't consider 18 grown yet) children?
I'm learning how to transition from needing to be his full-time, at-home Mommy, to being his confidante, his friend, his mentor, and whatever else God would have me be in his life, at this stage. WOW!! I never pictured myself getting here, although I knew it would come. I thought it would look different than it has actually played out. What did you expect? Was it the same or nearly the same?
I want him to know, that despite decisions this year that God and we as parents are not pleased with, that God still has a plan for his life, and he needs to take the necessary steps and daily meditations to get there and/or figure out what that plan is. We want him to know that we pray for him daily and that he is always in our thoughts. What things do you feel you need to pray for your adult child/en (nothing personal you may not want to tell)? Our concern for them sure hasn't lessened has it? Just different.
I thank God that He has allowed me to see this child to near adulthood, one to high school, one finding her way and figuring out who she is and whose she is as a middle schooler, and one still under the shelter and protection of the parent in elementary school. I thank God that He is a God of second chances and third and fourth and...because we don't always get it right the first time as parents. I need the Lord to parent my children through me. I always say the Creator can do a much better job at dealing with His created than one of His created can.
Have a wonderful rest of the day.
Won't you join us today, leaving a glimpse into your Monday by posting in your Simple Woman's Daybook? If you've seen this before, then you know what to do, but if you haven't, welcome to my entry of The Simple Woman's Daybook, a neat little idea by Peggy at http://www.thesimplewoman.blogspot.com/, that allows you to slow down, look around you, and share a few little simple things about how your day is going and what your plans are. It's not just fun, but it's a way of getting back to "doing LIFE together." The internet is a fabulous tool for such a thing since our world now is so fast paced, we don't get to know our neighbors anymore, and we don't follow the principle of sharing one another's burdens as much as we used to.
Outside my Window...it looks like it wants to be sunny so bad, but the clouds keep bullying. How will it turn out in the end? Only God knows. I pray for sunshine. I feel more chipper then.
I am thinking...my tooth is not hurting anymore!! (I was up all last night, taking Ibuprofen, praying, thinking about not having the money to see a dental specialist...AGAIN, not wanting another root canal and other dental work) I prayed for a miracle with the "teeth trouble" I'm having. I hope to be in God's will with that.
From the learning rooms...the girls are working in separate rooms because I have one who is easily distracted and tends to distract the other one. They work better separated until there is a subject that they can work on together.
I am thankful for...being able to stay home with my children and be here for my husband when he gets home from work. We don't have a lot of money for extras and sometimes the entirety of all of the bills (sometimes, we may have to make payments) because I don't work, but we have decided that the financial sacrifice and smart, tight budgeting has been more than well worth it.
From the kitchen...dishes left over from breakfast, a few things on the table, and the counters need to be wiped down.
I am wearing...khaki capris, a white t-shirt (that has purple writing on it), and those ever-faithful, white, satin house slippers.
I am reading...too many books at once--some verses in Exodus for a study, The Rising by Jerry Jenkins and Tim LaHaye, and Love Comes Softly by Janette Oke.
I am hoping...to keep the faith in the prayers I've prayed to the Lord and that I don't have to go to the dentist or endodontist, that I can make it through today and subsequent days without suffering with dental problems and pain. God is faithful though. I know that for sure!
I am creating...or helping my daughter put the finishing touches and a roof on her beaver dam we've been working on in science. She's so proud of it!
I am hearing...just the faint hum of the fan in my computer tower, one of my daughter's hands slide across her paper as she writes, and the clicking of the buttons on the computer keyboard. I also hear an occasional truck or car pass by outside.
Around the house...it's pretty neat and tidy. I've set some new rules or shall we say "helpers" in place so that our house stays neater longer. Lately, I'm having to remind everyone of the reasons we pitch in and help each other take care of what God has blessed us with.
One of my favorite things...is seeing the expression of or "the lightbulb suddenly shine" in someone's head of something they just couldn't grasp, or something brand new and delightful, or something they've been wrestling with and the answer just came. I love to see prayers answered for people, God's way. I love to see people who have just learned something new about Christ and their life is forever changed!
A Few Plans For The Rest Of The Week...my list is almost identical to Peggy's. I just (while I'm working on this daybook) had a phone call from my dentist's office to confirm an appointment I had forgotten about, to get our regular screenings and cleanings done tomorrow. How ironic, considering what I'm currently going through. We also have library books to return by Thursday, and after everything else we have to do for the rest of the week, I'd like to just settle in afterwards and enjoy home too.
Here is a picture thought I am sharing with you...
Looking forward to tea today, if my stomach will cooperate, whether it's iced matcha like the picture above suggests or hot chai,...I'm looking forward to a "tea moment."
I don't take many personal pictures, so I won't have many to share of my own. This picture is courtesy of Mr. Atsui (hope I'm spelling his name right) from Hibiki-An, the name of the company (family farm) in Japan that I have the privilege about once a year of purchasing my green tea from.
Oh Lord, thank You today for ALL that You are to us and for us. I am so grateful and will be eternally.
Nice lady Tracy at Seed Thoughts (http://takeck.blogspot.com) has been tagged by her friend Joanne at An Open Book to play along, telling others 8 random facts about herself. The rules of the play-along says that once you're tagged and you post, you must tag 8 other people, and that's how I came into the picture. Tracy picked me as one of her 8 people, and I've decided to play too. Below are the official rules, and then after that, look out for 8 really random facts about me. Leave me a comment and tell me whether you're surprised about what you found out. It's all true though.
Rules:1. Each player starts with eight random facts/habits about themselves.
2. People who are tagged need to write their own blog about their eight things and post these rules.
3. At the end of your blog, you need to choose eight people to get tagged and list their names.
4. Don't forget to leave them a comment telling them they're tagged, and to read your blog.
And now, for what you've all been so anxiously waiting for, because my life is just so interesting (Ha! Just kidding!)...
This has been fun! Now let me see who I can tag.
Robin at Pensieve (www.pensieve.typepad.com)
Kary at Palai Schole (www.palaischole.blogspot.com)
e-Mom at Chrysalis (www.chrysaliscom.blogspot.com)
Iris at Sting My Heart (www.eph2810.com)
Gina at Chats With An Old Lady (www.chatswithanoldlady.blogspot.com)
Momma Roar at Lifting Hands (www.liftinghands.blogspot.com)
Christina at Mustard Seeds (www.christina-mustardseeds.blogspot.com)
Linda at Remote Treechanger (www.remotetreechanger.blogspot.com)
I did it!! I was able to think of 8 people! Now I just pray that they don't all think that I'm some crazy wierdo out there that they don't know that much about or don't want to play along with. Sorry guys. You're in my favorites, so I just thought I'd ask if you'd like to play. I was tagged, so I tagged you. Hope you don't mind. Have a great evening.
e-Mom over at Chrysalis (http://www.chrysaliscom.blogspot.com/) hosts Marriage Monday, and what a precious, thought-provoking meme this is! I love to participate when I have the chance. She hosts this meme once a month, usually on the first Monday of the month. This month was an exception because of the holiday on last Monday. Visit her blog. You don't want to miss out. Even if you don't participate in Marriage Monday, this is a great blog to add to your blog roll and visit often. I've grown to love this blog and I check in as often as I can. Anyway, e-Mom's theme for this month is WHY ROMANCE MATTERS, and she asks this:
What tones down the tension, and tunes up the tenderness? How do you encourage your husband to open up and share his feelings? We want to know.
Here's my two cents worth:
It is just painfully obvious that men and women are wired different. Study after study proves that men love to have their wives share their physical bodies with them and fulfill their sexual needs. That's intimacy and romance to them. Women on the other hand, are usually just as satisfied, if not more so, with sweet, tender touch and closeness as they would be with sex. I know for me that's the case, although I enjoy my husband in relations both ways mentioned here.
I love to feel his tender touch. His hands are strong and they make me feel safe and secure. They physically tell me that he cares. I like to feel his body next to mine when we sit or lay down next to each other. I love the closeness and warmth. That would be enough for me. If I asked him, though I don't need to, that would NOT be enough for my dear, sweet husband.
I've figured out that all things in marriage, to make it successful that is, have to be learned. I mean we can have the natural tendency to be ourselves, but does that fill the need of the other person? Not always. Think about it. I'm a natural nurturer and I like to feel taken care of as well. My husband is a natural provider and he likes to be taken care of, but not necessarily in the ways that I do. If my husband were to just provide though, and not give me any attention, cuddle me, say the right words, affirm my duties and actions, and all the things that make me "tick" as a wife, I would feel neglected. On the flip side of that same coin, if I didn't purposely try and figure out then carry out what made my husband function and "tick," he would surely feel neglected also. I guess I'm saying that we should purposely, by many available means, try and figure out what pleases, helps, and satisfies the other person. We need to study the wiring of the other person and seek to connect and make things work. Doing this doesn't benefit one person, but both. Wouldn't you be more willing to do things for your husband (not by feelings of sheer duty and/or obedience) if you felt satisfied intimately and romantically? Wouldn't he perform or function better towards you if his needs were taken care of? Probably so, in a healthy relationship anyway. Submission to God and His words by both people, will always make the relationship work.
Romance does matter. My husband is an exception, I believe, when it comes to a man being naturally romantic. I don't mean creatively romantic. I mean intimacy-based romance. He is such a sweet man. He really fulfills my needs for touch, the right way, at the right times. He is thoughtful of me, kind to me, fills in the gaps for me when I physically can't do something for whatever reason, rubs my feet, opens my doors, pulls my seat out, gives me looks and stares that assures me that he has eyes for me, and much much more. For all the things I may temporarily moan and groan about, there is much more that he does right. For that I'm, truly grateful. This fills my female needs. While I would obey God and try, with His enabling me, to do the things that a wife should do, even if he didn't give me romance and intimacy, him doing so makes it that much easier for me to function and perform the way I should. God placed the need for intimacy within us women, and we shouldn't have those needs neglected or deny that they are there and need to be filled. When we're single, God takes care of these needs. He is our Comforter and Provider and Friend. If He decides to give us a husband, HE allows the husband to now fill those needs, although we should recognize that no human being alive could fill our needs as completely and rightly as God can.
I encourage my husband to open up and share his feelings with me as well as keep up the good work when it comes to intimacy and romance by meeting his needs. I believe that he would just be this way (romantic) anyway, but he would surely become discouraged if I were not to respond to his needs. While it's unrealistic to say that my husband is romantic and perfectly intimate 100% of the time, this is truly the way he is most of the time,...but, when he doesn't feel like talking or being creative in the relationship to keep "the fires burning," I give him ideas, I tell him what I would like to have happen, I try to be mindful of being consistent about filling his needs, we go to marriage retreats, we read books, we get ideas from other couples, we pray more than anything, and we read, read, read the Word of God.
One of the most romantic times in my marriage was when my husband and I were having a rather heated conversation about something I can't remember anymore, but I know that I was strongly disagreeing. We were dressed for a really formal occasion and had already gone to the function but had no time to go change before my son's soccer game, so we went the way we were. He in a nice suit and I in a beautiful dress of chiffon, satin, lace, a sheer wrap about my shoulders, and semi-high, strappy heels. When we arrived at the soccer game, I jumped out of the car first and headed to the field, assuming that he was close behind me. Big mistake! He literally ALWAYS opens my door for me, no matter what. He was very insulted. He doesn't care whether we disagree or not, he loves being the gentleman and having no one take that privilege from him. He leaned against the car and watched me saunter off, high stepping and moving quickly with an attitudinous "switch" in my walk. It was a little windy so I pulled my wrap (or shawl, depending on where you're from) close to me, cocked my head upward, and kept moving toward the field. Suddenly, I stopped and turned around and realized he wasn't behind me, and I started looking for him. When I looked back a distance, I could see he was leaning against the car, smiling no less!! What was he smiling about, I wondered!! This was certainly NOT a "smiling kind of moment," at least not in my opinion. I had to decide whether to go on to the field with my apparent attitude, or go back to the car. Of course, the sinful nature in me said to just go on to the field. He'll eventually make his way over. He's a big boy, besides, I'm not giving in to his little antics! Ha!! Yeah, right!! I walked back over to the car and he stands there, shaking his head and smiling harder. I got close enough to ask him what exactly he was smiling about, and he proceeds to say this: "I've never seen a more beautiful angry woman in my life. I watched you walk away and I love what attitude, in that dress, with those shoes look like. I wasn't turned off at all. Just the opposite. I wasn't angry anymore, I was capsized. You are beautiful, no matter how you feel. I can't stay angry or disagreeable with you. Come here." I came closer and well...he kissed me and walked me over, arm in arm to the field, staring at me the whole time, reminding me of how beautiful he thought I was. I will never forget this.
I hope you enjoyed this post today. There are more though. If you visit e-Mom at the link above, you can share in the romantic moments of others who participated this month. You can see why they think romance is important. I hope that your marriage is romantic, and if it's not, I hope you and your hubby find ways to make it so. It's worth every moment you put into it.